Has your life been feeling unbalanced lately? Does it seem like you focus all your attention and energy on your children and have nothing left for yourself? Being a parent can be wonderful, but it is also natural to sometimes feel overwhelmed by the responsibility. When this overwhelm reaches a certain point, it may even seem difficult to go on. In fact, many parents express feeling depressed or burnt out from the pressure of their parenting duties.
Perfection. We all dream of achieving it. Some of us more than others. Of course, great achievements or outstanding work can give us a feeling of satisfaction and lift our self-esteem. But the unrelenting pursuit of perfection can cause quite the opposite. In fact, perfectionism can lead to chronic stress and anxiety.
Often, when we have unpleasant or frightening experiences, we can’t seem to shake them from our mind. They stick with us. After a while, the memory of the events may fade. Though, only to suddenly and unexpectedly return with a vengeance due to something we see, hear, or even smell. Instantly, our thoughts get thrown right back to that moment when it all happened, replaying the whole incident over again.
As parents, we love our children. We make so many sacrifices with time, energy, and commitment. And we want to see them happy, progressing, and thriving. When we hear or sense that our teen feels left out during Valentine’s Day celebration, we feel sad, upset, and frustrated to see them struggle, perceiving that they are [...]
The start of the new year is a perfect time to begin creating positive changes in your life. We all wish for a better, happier life in the new year. However, we don’t have to just wish; we have the power to make positive changes. For example, for this new year, start imagining how you [...]
Despite extramarital affairs being commonplace in the modern world, these unfortunate happenings often feel like the dropping of a huge bomb. Especially when you’re the one who was betrayed. It’s not uncommon for you to feel trapped inside the traumatic experience, bubbling up rage and anger every time something reminds you of the incident. Feeling [...]
The advice you may receive—especially from friends and family—on how to recover from infidelity often is to rush immediately to couples counseling. What these well-meaning people don’t realize, however, is that this approach can be counterproductive. Why? Jumping right into couples counseling after infidelity often bypasses any trauma the situation has created for you. In [...]
Why do therapists, physicians, even your best friends tell you to “slow down and take a deep breath” when you’re anxious and upset? They know what your body knows: intentional deep, calming breath settles the emotion, clears the mind, and soothes the body. The breath is our built-in tool for calm and self-correction. You become [...]
The idea of bringing calm and peace to the mind and body is something therapists share across many therapeutic approaches. Whether a therapist teaches you to manage your emotional trauma and pain through the practice of mindfulness meditation, somatic therapy, or Rapid Resolution Therapy, two important factors come into play: turning inward and utilizing the [...]
In my last post, “Molestation and Sexual Assault: How They Impact You,” I’ve discussed how sexual trauma can impact a person. Often, the underlying sexual trauma is the root of all kinds of seemingly unrelated problems that eventually manifest themselves in emotional dysregulation. This happens because the original trauma is stored in the person’s brain [...]