Do You Feel Exhausted, Stressed and Stuck?
- Are you struggling with depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, anger, relationship or dating issues, career challenges or something else?
- Are you always questioning your choices, doubting your perceptions and worrying that you are letting others down?
- Are you uncomfortable with saying “no,” even when you’re already stretched to your breaking point?
- Do you put yourself last so often that you no longer know what you really want?
- Are you unsure how to handle intense feelings of resentment, rage and sadness?
- As you struggle to meet career demands, nurture your romantic relationship and care for the people in your life, do you long for time that’s just about you and your needs?
- Do you wish you could improve your self-esteem, feel empowered to advocate for yourself and find clarity and direction in your life?
There’s nothing wrong with trying to do the right thing and support others. But, if you are dedicating all of your time and energy to pleasing your prospective dates, long-term partners, family members, coworkers, kids or anyone else in your life, you may feel increasingly drained and discouraged. Perhaps you are also struggling with grief or anger that you don’t know how to manage. Even though part of you may want to take a break and ask for help, another part may question whether “you deserve it.”
It may seem that everyone else has all the answers while you are an imposter, disconnected from everyone and everything, including yourself. Maybe you simply feel overwhelmed and frustrated, unsure of what you want and need or who you really are.
Many People Struggle With Low-Self Worth and Strained Boundaries
In our fast-paced culture, there is a great deal of pressure to be hardworking, likeable and selfless. Many of us are expected to be on the go every hour of the day, whether we’re pushing ahead in our career, navigating relationship difficulties, taking care of our families, spending time with friends or staying active in our communities. It can feel as though there is always something we should be doing or some standard of performance that we need to meet. It’s no wonder that so many people feel stressed or defeated from morning until night.
In addition, it can sometimes feel as though you’re failing if you don’t feel stretched to your limit. More and more, people talk about how little they sleep and how much they have to do, as though exhaustion is a badge of honor. We are more often praised when we take on that extra project or drop everything to console a friend than when we take an hour to meditate. In fact, taking that hour can feel selfish and indulgent.
In truth, however, no one person can be everything for everybody. Taking care of your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing is important, especially if you are experiencing intense, distressing emotions. As the saying goes, you don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
I know how difficult it can be to believe that you are worthy and matter. The good news, however, it is possible for you tap into what’s inherently important to you and make empowered decisions that support your authentic self. No matter what you’re struggling with, individual therapy can help you let go of self-judgment and self-criticism, identify your needs and create a thoughtful plan to transform your life.
Individual Counseling Can Help You Create and Sustain Balance in Your Life
If you feel deeply lost and suspect that you’re suffering because you just aren’t trying hard enough, know that you are not alone. Throughout my years as a counselor, I’ve worked with many people who feel they must be doing something wrong. No one has all the answers, and struggling does not mean you are weak or inadequate. It simply means that you’re human.
I offer highly individualized therapy that is tailored to your specific personality, needs, and situation, whether you are looking for:
- Anger Management
- Grief Counseling
- Support With Relationship Issues
- Assertiveness Training
- Stress Management
- Personal Empowerment and Growth
Unlike couples counseling and other more directed forms of therapy, individual therapy sessions are all about you. You get to guide our work together, and I will not judge you or tell you what to do. Instead, I will listen without judgment and validate your experience. In each session, I will adapt my therapy approach to your needs and offer guidance and support as you discover your own answers.
By letting go of the idea that you are somehow “wrong,” you can develop deep self-compassion and curiosity about what you really want. Then, you can begin to sift through the conflicting messages that you’ve received throughout your life and gain a new sense of clarity.
Depending on your individual personality and goals, I may suggest stress management techniques, such as deep breathing, which can help you connect with your body and engage in the present moment. I might also encourage you to take actionable steps to prioritize your wellbeing, such as scheduling an hour of self-care and treating it like an appointment. For example, you might sign up for an exercise class or a massage. I can also help you develop self-advocacy skills so you can feel equipped to maintain healthy boundaries and become more comfortable with saying “no.” In a safe, soothing, accepting space, you can begin the practice of taking care of yourself.
It’s easy to get stuck in a stress loop, especially when it seems there’s always something else to do and another high standard to meet. In individual therapy, I will see you for you, not for your relationship status or to-do list. I will hear you. You may be surprised by how much that support uplifts and empowers you. With help and trusted place to turn, you can begin to go easier on yourself. You can find clarity, create a plan of action and move forward into a more balanced, fulfilling life.
You may have questions or concerns about empowerment counseling…
Why can’t I just talk to friends and family members?
While friends and family members can be valuable support systems, they are unlikely to be truly objective. Relying solely on loved ones can also make it more difficult to create and maintain healthy boundaries in your relationships.
Talking to an experienced, skilled therapist who is truly dedicated to you can bring about enormous relief. I have access to resources, skills and strategies that others may not, as well as vast experience helping others heal, develop confidence and find direction. It can be enormously comforting to know that you always have somewhere to turn, and I will make myself as available to you as I possibly can. Most importantly, I will always prioritize your needs.
I’m too busy for individual counseling.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having a full schedule and doing things for others. However, putting your mental health last is not sustainable in the long-term. Without taking time for yourself, you may feel increasingly irritable, resentful and hopeless. Especially following a loss, you may become too drained to truly engage in your career and relationships. How can you be kind to others if you are not kind to yourself?
Prioritizing your mental health can help you navigate your life with greater ease. You can think of therapy as a space to recharge. You can feel better able to handle stress, productively respond to conflict and treat others with patience and empathy.
Doesn’t needing help mean that I’m weak?
So many of us think that if we just try harder and did better, we could feel happy, calm and fulfilled. But, in truth, this is not the way it works, and seeking help is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength.
And, asking for help is not just a one-time thing. It is an ongoing decision to take care of yourself—a decision that shows courage and commitment to your own life. That doesn’t mean you have to be in therapy forever or every week. You might decide to see me just once a month, or a few times a year. Regardless of what works best for you, know that taking care of yourself is always something to be celebrated.
You Deserve Care and Support
I invite you to call me at 281-693-1455 for a free, 15-minute phone consultation. You can ask me any questions you may have about individual counseling and my practice in Katy, TX.