The advice you may receive—especially from friends and family—on how to recover from infidelity often is to rush immediately to couples counseling. What these well-meaning people don’t realize, however, is that this approach can be counterproductive. Why? Jumping right into couples counseling after infidelity often bypasses any trauma the situation has created for you. In [...]
Why do therapists, physicians, even your best friends tell you to “slow down and take a deep breath” when you’re anxious and upset? They know what your body knows: intentional deep, calming breath settles the emotion, clears the mind, and soothes the body. The breath is our built-in tool for calm and self-correction. You become [...]
The idea of bringing calm and peace to the mind and body is something therapists share across many therapeutic approaches. Whether a therapist teaches you to manage your emotional trauma and pain through the practice of mindfulness meditation, somatic therapy, or Rapid Resolution Therapy, two important factors come into play: turning inward and utilizing the [...]
In my last post, “Molestation and Sexual Assault: How They Impact You,” I’ve discussed how sexual trauma can impact a person. Often, the underlying sexual trauma is the root of all kinds of seemingly unrelated problems that eventually manifest themselves in emotional dysregulation. This happens because the original trauma is stored in the person’s brain [...]
According to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), the scope of molestation and sexual trauma is widespread. 1 in every 6 American women experienced an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. 1 in 33 of American men experienced an attempted or completed rape in his lifetime. From 2009 to 2013, Child Protective Services [...]
Was your marriage a toxic relationship? How do you really know if what you endured was traumatizing? And now, after the divorce, what’s next for you? Was Your Relationship Toxic? What does abuse or toxicity look like in a relationship? It can present in a multitude of ways. You know that you felt bad in [...]
Imagine you have a dog that you have trained to bark at intruders. Yet, instead of only alerting you when there is a danger, the dog barks at everyone: the mailman, your boyfriend, strangers passing by on the sidewalk. In fact, the dog’s barking prevents you from inviting friends and family over, impedes you from taking [...]
Work-related anxiety is a condition that has long-lasting effects on the mental and emotional health of sufferers. Some 72 percent of people suffering from it and say that it obstructs their lives to some extent. Why is there such a struggle? And what can you do to alleviate this anxiety?